We didn't have marriage counseling when we started reconciling...it might have helped but I learned a lot here that helped me stay focused...
I want to emphasize the GAL thing SD touched on...it is VITAL even after you reconcile to keep GAL for YOURSELF and you MUST ALLOW that for your spouse too...it is healthy...it is strengthening...it is NORMAL!...I have maintained this and we are a much better couple then we ever were before...he also has his life too...I don't have to feel like I should be included in every little thing he does, nor does he feel that way about my activities...this is so different from the first 27 years of our life together!
Piecing is a process...one that takes time and tests your strength even more then the separation might have...you question if you are doing the right thing...you are scared to death...but remember so are THEY!...keep DB'ing...do what works...keep working hard on yourself because it will show...you will see results!
