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A little influence from Kung Fu Panda...
My boys and I saw it yesterday, and when I heard this part, I thought to myself, "Hey, I want to post that on my thread. How insightful!"
(((((((Michelle)))))))
Very sorry to hear about all that has transpired this morning.
Originally Posted By: MichelleLT
Originally Posted By: LolaL
I have found that when they say the OW has nothing to do with it, it is exactly the opposite.
Yeah, my gut definitely tells me that.
It's certainly a possibility that OW has something to do with this, but remember that she is not the problem. Her "presence" in your M doesn't help, true, but the real issue lies within your H. What THAT is....no one knows. I don't believe your H even truly knows.
Ok, I know waking up this morning to find that IM from your H had to have been pretty awful, but this really sticks out at me:
Originally Posted By: MichelleLT
(11:15:47 PM) H: my point is that, I know you've made your point that you don't believe in divorce. I don't either....... at SRP I have to answer questions. and I'd like to answer that I'm separated, if you will sign the forms I sent to you. I'm so sorry things came to this. I don't know how it worked out this way
He doesn't believe in D either - I think that alone is HUGE.
He wants to answer that he is "S'ed"....Well at least he's NOT saying that he wants to be "D'ed".
If he did send you S papers, how do you feel about going through with signing them? A legal S does NOT mean it is over, remember?
I know you said he would get extra money for being S'ed, which you probably would get none of (by his choice of course), but would it be that big of a problem? Yeah, it's not fair and doesn't seem right, but is this something you could let go of for now? For good?
JMHO, but if he wants a legal S, why not give it to him? He's not asking for a D, and I think that's a very positive sign. Of course, you have to get the letter from your Mom and Dad's house first so we know exactly what you're looking at here.
Get the letter, read and think it over, then meet up with H to discuss matters.
Oh, and about H saying you two don't have much in common - the recent dates you've had with each other....What did you guys do? Dinner? Movie? Anything else (besides ML)?
Are there going to be any chances for you two to get together to do something different than the norm before he's deployed? Something new, adventurous, and fun? Hiking, biking, whitewater rafting.....Just throwing out ideas here. Not sure what activities you and H are into.
Think of something that will leave a lasting, GREAT impression of time with you so he has something GOOD to think about while he's away.
(((((((Michelle)))))))
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
