so I have to meet with the child advocate on friday -- so does h. he will also interview my daughter. my fear is that my daughter has always been a "daddy's girl" and since she has just been with his parents for the week (fun, fun, fun) and will be with h basically all this week (she's 5) that she will say she wants "daddy".
do you have any advice as to how I should handle the interview with the child advocate? things I should say, etc?
They do not ask a child of that age to choose which parent they want to live with. That is out of the question. You are fantasizing and letting your imagination run wild to scare yourself. There is an agreement worked out. That is what will be. You need to just not act out and do anything stupid. Don't try taking hostages, for example.
sara -- thank you for the reply. what do you mean by not taking hostages? I just want to do the best job I can with the advocate. again, h is using the mental health card. I have obtained letters from my therapist, dr. and psychiatrist on my behalf. explaining that my anxiety issue manifests physically (stomach problems) and that I am being treated.
the most damaging thing h has on me is the journal he stole and photocopied. the journal was an exercise is "getting everything out on paper" to get it "out of your body", so to speak. I have the dr. I was working with this who gave me this exercise writing a letter explaining the therapeutic journal and that these quotes h is using are taken out of context.
What you are doing is perfect. What do I mean? I guess your H is doing the types of things I would refer to as taking hostages: stealing the car, taking the 401K, taking the child. He is going to look very bad to these people. You just be a normal person, not doing wild, mean, vindictive, quasi-illegal things, and you will be fine. You are going to look very good in comparison to his craziness. The fact that a doctor asked to write the journal totally takes away any power that the journal might have to be used against you. It probably could be considered a confidential medical record that can't even be used in court.
I think your daughter will be so happy to see you. I think it will be to your advantage. BELIEVE in the love you and your daughter have for each other.
Don't try to be anything but what you are. It will serve you well.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
