Hi Mishka...first time visiting your thread, but I am also the W of a man who was military (German Air Force).

I think alot of my H's problems are related to Somalia (when Black Hawk Down occurred, he was there, albeit in a different fashion). I am wondering, now, if these wars we have engaged in have had some detrimental affect on our S's.

As far as faith is concerned, I can surely understand that. You wonder why God would have put this person in your life only to take them away. I have prayed, and come up with this:

This situation may have absolutely nothing to do with us as the spouses. Although we are the ones who are being hurt, and wondering what is going on, it may actually be a period of healing that these WAS's need to make themselves stronger. Some will take advantage of the opportunity, and some will not. I believe that the ones who are truly able to focus on their own lives are the ones who will see what is important.

Keep having faith. My counselor said every time I think of my H, to just ask God to bless him. I do that. It does help.

Lola


Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..