Be a man who is in love with his wife, and who is going to dinner at their friends house.

You know, we learn that ignoring problems and hoping that they will go away is a bad idea. Our parents and life in general teach us as much.

But DB'ing is counter intuitive.

There is this issue between you and your wife. Your efforts to this point have been motivated by a desire to make that issue go away. And ironically, the changes in YOU make it possible that, for the time being at least, you may well be able to ignore this issue and in the process see it slowly slip away.

Don't misunderstand me. At some point, the decision she made will have to be revisited explicitly by the two of you. She will drive this revisiting at a time when she is ready to open the subject up for discussion. For your part, the longer she puts it off, the better I think that is for a good outcome.

Oh and don't worry. I don't think your wife is the type of woman to choose dinner with friends as the place to open this subject up for discussion.

So...back to my original statement.

Go to dinner with your wife as the man who loves her.

And enjoy your evening.


Bill

"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."