Part IX: Things are Heating Up!

[AliSuddenly]

Thats exactly what I was thinking! Maybe its a woman thing, but I'm surprised you didnt spot that too Rob! Its obvious! She is worried one, or both of her parents will die and shes too proud or scared or whatever to ask you, if you would be there for her, but she is obviously THINKING she would hope you would, as she would be for you.

Also, the parent death thing is a classic MLC thing isnt it? I didnt see so much abuse this time in the messages, but she seems a little warmer? Well, as much as a drip from an iceberg, hey!

Perhaps you could think of some phrase to say, in an unemotional way, to let her know your boundaries in future? If she is verbally abusive, you could say...I'm sorry to hear that that is how you feel about X, but it is unnaceptable to speak to me that way" or, suggest that perhaps her migraine/stress from work/from parents is influencing the way she is communicating with you? Just say it politely, friendly even, but state the boundary? You could add, I am always here to talk to you, if you want to talk, but I wont accept being spoken to angrily... or something?

Cant think of the wrods, but she seems to have no self awareness!

It IS a baby step that she is secretly hoping that you will be there for you if her Dad dies. I guess the OM really is off the scene (as she said in the Deposition?)

Ali x