If you / Don't care for it

[Sugar and Spice]

(((Michelle))) Saturday seems to be off to a smashing start for all.

I may not be in the right frame of mind to be giving anyone advice and God knows my DB'ing could use some serious work, but let him go. Your H reminds me of mine. I think he has no idea what he wants and is so busy trying to deny to himself that he has any issues that he keeps himself from being able to do anything productive one way or another. One day he is talking about dating and the next S. He has no idea from one minute to the next what he wants and will not take the time to sit down and take a hard look at himself and his life and take stock.

Like mine, but in a different way, your H is running away. He rewrites the past to suit whatever mood he is in and is able to continue to justify his behavior by doing so. You have been a good and loyal wife and friend to him, but he is not being a good friend back. Trust me I know how scary this is, but you can't fix him and until he is ready to be fixed (or not) you are torturing you. I'm not saying leave him or never talk to him again, I would never say that. Maybe its time to do what I need to do and break off one of the arms of the triangle and let him live with the consequences of his actions.

I'm mad for you too. Its just so damned unfair for good people like you and the others on these boards to have to be put through so much hell by the ones that are suposed to love us and cherish us. I should probably just shut up and go take a nap.

(((Michelle))) take it with a grain of salt, its been a hell of a day.