Holding Pattern

[iamlost]

Well, first of all, I'm really, really sorry it's not going well JWS. It sounds like she feels guilty, and is acting it.

I have a question about these parts:

We talked about how to spilt things up for the appartment. Witch she wants in both our names (because I have a job) she was sounding very final. I eventualy said that I would never give up on her. She thanked me and then said that she had to be honest and felt she was pretty much completely finished and moving on.

I don't understand why she expects you to put your name on her apartment when she is also telling you that she is completely finished and moving on?

I am not sure about the whole appartment thing though. This is so fricken hard. On one hand I want to kick her to the curb on the other hand hold her forever.

I really think that you need to establish some financial boundaries here. She's not letting you hold her forever right now. I don't think you're doing her, yourself, or your relationship any favors by not letting her stand on her own two feet.

I know I can stand on my own to feet and live. She will have to do the same first.