Maria, my dear, both Jeff and Ali have my e-mail if you'd ever like to drop me a note. I'd love to see pictures of my favorite red-headded Greek goddess of the Sun!
How am I doing? Well, I'm doing ok, but I'm very, very tired. I get sleepy when I'm stressed, and thus here I am fighting to keep my eyes open at almost 1 in the afternoon. This D process, the Ls, my W being and acting crazy, fixing the house to sell in a depressed market, etc. have kind of gotten to me this week, so I'm exhausted right now.
We met w/ the judge this morning and our court date is set for Oct. 6, but I don't think we'll have to go to court, unless, of course, W decides to fight the parenting evaluation's finding.
W's L said they were going to dipose me sometime in the next two weeks and I'm fine w/ that. There shouldn't be anything that W has to grill me about b/c I haven't hidden anything from her. We'll see how it goes, but really, it should be another chance for me to consistently tell my side of the story. I'm acutally looking forward to it as I'd like to know what they think they've got up their sleeve.
So, that is where I'm at now. I'm a bit tired today and will probably take a nap (because I can), then get up, hit the gym for some cardio work and find my way to the driving range. After that, probably a movie in tonight and then 18 holes of golf tomorrow for the 1st time since right after New Year's.
Yes, I'm sure they will. I'll just be honest and tell them what I know. If it is something I honestly don't remember, I'll tell them. Likewise, if they can prove otherwise later, then I'll gladly take ownership of my actions.
I thought it was curious that she didn't look to depose me b/c it makes her look like I'm the one telling the truth. I'm sure the deposition will center on all the money I've supposedly wasted, my reported gambling habit, as well as what I've done when I've had D w/ me. I've got no skeletons on any of these, so I'm not worried. It should be pretty interesting, actually.
The big difference is, unlike my W, I'll be able to go in and just do the deposition. My W was angry from the start that I dared have her deposed. Now, once she sees how expensive it will be to have a deposition, then she may reconsider. I really don't know what she'll gain from my deposition as I'll admit and own up to everything I've done - unlike she did. My W's depostion can be used against her in court, while I'm not sure how much of mine will be damaging against me if I'm honest and tell the truth.
I dont know much about all of this, the deposition and parent evaluation and all that, but I think you are coping marveouslly with a very stressful situation, I have been following your sitch since the beginning it feels, and you have been bombarded all along with one thing after another. You are clearly a strong man or a tough cookie.
You dont say much about your own stuff, GAL, or friends or family, but I am assuming that you are getting lots of support?
Ali x
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
I did take a nice, needed 3 hour nap. I know that means no gym for me, but I'll still hit golf balls - I have to as I'm playing at 5:45 tomorrow morning! Yikes!
Anyway, the deposition should be fine for me. We deposed my W to get some of her lies on the record and to see if there were areas we could catch her in and use against her if a trial is needed. Both my L and myself aren't too worried about it b/c I haven't been lying.
I'll say the truth and take responsibility for what I've done w/out problem. As far as her other potential questions, I'll answer them to the best of my ability and I'll do it truthfully. So, I'm not really worried, but actually curious as to what she'll try and do and where she'll go w/ her questions.
All I know is I'll tell the truth. That's all I can do, I guess. My L and I will meet and he says I'll be more than ready for it, so again, I'm not too worried.
I really do appreciate your support and confidence in me and in what I've been doing here. I'm glad to know I have you in my corner.
You are spot on about my GALing efforts, as I haven't chronicled them at all. That is because I'm not doing enough for myself lately, but at the same time, I'm not down or blue about it.
I went to Lake Tahoe to see family right after school ended, then when we got back, I had the deposition, then time w/ D and then this stuff today. So, now that these major hurdles have cleared, I'm hoping to concentrate more on me.
I still have a ton of stuff to do like painting the house interior, packing and getting stuff ready to move out, listing the property, etc., so it doesn't seem like it will slow down for me anytime soon. I hope that it does b/c I want to concentrate on getting a life. I just want this crap to be over with at this point.
I've been able to go out a few times w/ friends and I've really enjoyed myself tremendously. In fact, I stayed out a bit too late on a few occasions and found myself sleeping the next day away in an attempt to get 8 hours in.
RTL, just read through your thread here. Seems like your W and my stbxh should hold hands and jump--two peas in a pod. Good luck to you (I am over in surviving...) --D
I'm trying to hang in there. I don't really know of any skeletons I have in my closet. If W wants to see if I have a gambling problem, then I'll ask if Fantasy Football is a gambling problem. That is what I bet on. The largest bet I've ever laid in my life is $200 for a 16 week college football pick 'em pool. Otherwise, it is $100 a season for fantasy football and a few $20 bets maybe twice a year. Definitely not a gambling problem.
My W's L is making money off of her and I don't think she'll end up being too happy when she can't discover anything hidden or grossly negligent about our finances and thus she'll end up w/ a significant amount less than she thought she'd be raking in. Oh, well. I'm just going to stay the course and see what happens.
