I really don't think a direct confrontation would help. The EA is very long distance and seems intermittent. It has actaully helped me to feel less guilt about the M failing. I am giving all the evidence to my L. What do you think would help? She is already divorcing me so I don't know what could be worse. She started very distant and aloof (2-3 Weeks), then horribly angry (2-3 Weeks) now almost friendly and talkative (like I am a casual friend). Things are very calm right now and I am concerned about going back into the intense anger mode. You are right about the entitlement queen thing. She thinks that everyone "owes" her.
Yesterday and today have been better with W. I have been LRT except for kid issues or when I am forced to ineract. Then I am confident, validating and humorous. She expressed jeaulousy again today about my GAL activities. I am trying to be more mysterious about the GAL items. The less I tell, the more interested she gets. She definitely wants me at home pining for her.
I see us getting into a solid stage two at this time. It may never go further but it is more livable in the cohabitating separation and is a good basis for coparenting. Stage 3 might never happen.
We have a family vacation planned in two weeks that she kept as planned with the 4 of us. The tickets were just booked this week and that seems like a slightly good sign.
