Trying to put myself in your wife's girlfriend's man's shoes (lol)....considering I am not married to this woman, and her friend who needs some help, a place to stay...its kinda hard how long I would be OK with it before it became irratating. Being a boyfriend and not a husband I might keep my gripes to myself a bit longer cause when you are boyfriend/girlfriend rather than husband/wife you are still kinda on that honeymoon best behavior phase. So, I dunno. I do know that I would eventually grow irratated with it. But it also depends on if I liked the person I was helping or barely knew her. Frankly, I think its a waste of mind to ponder this question (as I write a whole paragraph lol). Just safe to say the arrangement couldnt possibly go on forever.
Anyhow - its great you got on the fitness track and working on your spirituality. Like you mentioned, the spirituality can give you enormous strength & comfort.
Its impossible you are not a better man after getting through all this. Bravo for doing 'the right thing' than allowing yourself to go on a negative self destructive spiral. (like a few guys I know did after their divorces)
Me: 37 Wife: 40 Son: 7yo Son: 18 mo Bomb: 12/31/07 Status: Reconciled 1/2009 but backsliding terribly right now
