It matters to him because he will get extra money - higher level of housing allowance, family separation pay, etc. since we are M. Money that is supposed to be for me to maintain our house and lifestyle. Except we don't have an "our" house. When this came up last fall during the fires and he was put on state active duty, I told him I was upset that he claimed me as a dependent so he would get more money and then didn't share it with me. I guess he feels guilty for keeping all that money. If he does that again while he's deployed, it will amount to thousands and thousands of dollars extra for him over the course of that year.
I replied over IM. Said sorry, I was asleep. Feel free to give me a call when you are up and about.
I feel like we have slid back months. He hadn't brought up any of this stuff either subtly or not so subtly since like February! And what happened to wanting to date and give it a shot!?! Stupid DAM.
And yes, he was drunk. I cleaned up his typos and stuff. But like I said, he said "I'm not in the mood, I just had a cop stop me and give me a ride home from the pub"
Last edited by MichelleLT; 06/07/0803:11 PM.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
I am sorry for being a little lost, but what is a separation form?
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
In CA, you can get a legal S, which is not the same as a D. It is not even a step in the D process, not a requirement. It is rarely used except for financial reasons.
Last year, he brought up D a lot, but I have been the one considering legal S (he doesn't know this though) because of all his spending.
Yeah, I'm kinda curious to see if he is still as adamant about this after sleeping the alcohol off. We'll see I guess. I fear he is, but hope he isn't.
*sighs*
(8:25:24 AM) H: oof (8:25:52 AM) H: nothing is untrue, but I had a LOT to drink so I'm sorry it might be a little blunt (8:26:06 AM) H: or a lot blunt
Last edited by MichelleLT; 06/07/0803:26 PM.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
OK, I am going to take my daughter to her mini tennis show. I'll check on you later. YOU are youself's First priority. YOU are amazing, smart, funny. sexy... Do NOT sell youself short.
Well but a LS is not the same as a D. I imagine right now he is feeling guilty because he has enjoyed himself during the dates with you. He has built this up in his mine and you have been doing great DBing. You have really shown him that things can be different, and I think for these WAW that makes them nervous in a way. They have gotten used to things being a certain way and stated what they want, and when we actually begin working on it, well, they are stunned.
Keep the faith. It was a drunken message. Guilt comes out in waves when Captain Jack is along for the ride.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
You are studying this weekend, right? We love talking to you but do yourself a favor, log off the computer, shut it down completely, hit the books and let H deal with his own crap for now.
Ok, now who's being blunt? Sorry.....JMHO.
((((Michelle))))
You're amazing!!!!!!!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Two thumbs up to Mishka!!! Let him deal with issues and his guilt. You work on you!! (((Michelle)))
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
