"hey Brian--if you build it they will come..if it's buried deep then it stays down there. Up top is where we want it. I'm glad we moved it up. The more the merrier and the more help you get."
That was your doing my friend, I built nothing other than a fast friendship I hope with someone I never met but feel as though I have known for years *TY*!
Update...
Thursday was a tag your it with W day. She had been trying to get a hold of me all day, finally hooked up on the phone in the afternoon. Seems D11 wanted to go to a 'R' rated movie 1 of the new gory ones, W told her no you aren't going well D11 who thinks sometimes she is older than she is decided she was going to give W attitude about it and basically hurt her feelings on the deal cause she didn't like her answer. So I am listen keeping my mouth shut and am about ready to validate W's position when she says "I guess I was just calling to get 'validated' (her word mind you) that I made the right decision?" Okay pick chin off of floor here! I said of course you did I just watched the trailer on the net and it made me jump no she isn't going. W says "well that makes me feel better that you agree".
Then she proceeds to thank me again for talking to her with the storm the night before, I said no thanks needed but you are welcome. Then later in the evening she sends a text saying she really appreciated my help with D11.
Thursday evening, had gotten the cell bill in the mail and we had a BIG problem! I had bought D11 a cell so that she could contact me or W at anytime since she had been walking to & from school and was a 'latch key' kid for the last quarter so she was home alone for about an hour till D17 got home. Plus since W was moving out want D11 to be able to reach me whenever she felt the need. Okay, long story short we have a family plan with 900 minutes to share between W, me, and D11 well D11 blew through 700 minutes in a MONTH. So I called & told W she was fuming could see the smoke through the phone, I said I got her the phone I will handle it she says you better I'm not paying for it. I said whoa down alittle (nice tone) I will call & have a talk with her. So call D11 told her I have talked to you twice before nicely now I am PO'd She says I am sorry didn't know, I said um I don't think that's the truth & she said well... I have been on it alot lately talking to my friends I said thank you that's better so got it worked out. Told W it is handled and I will just change the plan, she says thanks for handling that.
Friday AM...
W sends me an email first thing in the morning and wanted to know if I got to work okay cause of all the rain and flooding we have had. I said yes I am fine it was yesterday that was tough, see I commute 30 miles both ways for work and we have a creek that pretty much runs through Lincoln and it flooded out of its banks never seen it to that before but anyway I have to cross it to get where I am going. Well after trying to cross in 2 different places I had to back track and go thru water that was up to my doors, now I drive a half-ton Chevy pick-up if that tells ya anything and let me tell ya the water was flowing a good 20-25 miles an hour I being a DAM and in a 4x4 I hit the water doing about 35 miles an hour (dah water) needless to say it washed over on the motor and was getting the distribuator wet okay I have twinkies comin out of you know where so I slam into 4 wheel drive and drop it into 2nd gear and start featherin the gas peddle and made it thru bout half a mile what a dumb ARS! Well W basically agreed with my sentiment of myself and comes back with maybe you oughta put a canoe in the back haha.
Friday PM...
Just hangin out at home tonight washin my 'canoe' (truck) W calls wanting to know since I have plans tomorrow if I want D11 on Sunday, I said that was nice to offer but have plans. Well she then preceeded to start a new convo and started to tell me about her day (hasn't done that in months) so I am listen and interjecting at points and we are chuckling (thank-you been a long time) I say you sound like you have a cold are you okay? She says don't know whats wrong not sick just have a scratchy throat must be allergies or something. She works at a hospital and she was talking to a PA about it and PA said you should take something she has taken Allegra in the past but quit cause she didn't think it was helping. PA said try something different so here is where I started to backslide & started trying to 'fix it' I said well you know there are different....ooops caught myself backtracked and said maybe the PA was right but I am sure you will figure out what's best for yourself and get it handled. Think that was okay? Well it had been going on for about 15 minutes and I said I had better let you go so that you can rest your voice and get something to drink I said I will talk to you later and have a good rest of the night and said goodbye and she said well okay..?? talk to you later bye, and I ended it there.
So thats the last 48 hrs in a nutshell, sorry it's so long. I think there was alot of positives except for my slight backslide but all in all it felt good, no controversy, I think I validated okay. For a few minutes tonight it felt like the first time we met just light and easy... don't worry I am expecting nothing just being me....the new old old me that is...
Peace be in your heart
Brian
Really good here Brian. I'm proud of you man..really proud..another thing. It's really really good in your W's eyes that you backed her and did not let the D go to that movie..Shows teamwork on your part..nothing worse than two parents who are not on the same track when dealing with the child. Very good.
Last edited by M from Tennessee; 06/07/0801:09 PM.
