Your husband is using all the dirty tactics in the book to keep YOU unsettled.
It's in HIS favor if you are rattled, upset, terrified, nervous, depressed and listless. He is NOT acting in your best interests, he is your adversary. A husband loves and protects his wife. He is NOT acting like a husband. He's not someone you owe anything to while he's behaving in such a negative fashion.
Do NOT take his calls. Let them go to voicemail. Listen to the voicemail (if you feel you must) with a friend by your side. Let the law, the lawyer, your dad be your friend.
Your husband has a dastardly and destructive mind.
Protect yourself.
When you feel terrified (something he wants you to feel), turn it around. Repeat what you have that calms you.
Terror, anxiety, fear all build on each other and grow exponentially.
When you feel terror, do 10 pushups, walk a mile, do 30 jumping jacks. Let the emotion out in physical movement. Get it out of your head.
I idolized my spouse. He turned that around on me, manipulated conversations to get what he wanted, turned the blame on me. It took my lawyer whacking me about 5 times with a 2x4 to realize what she said was true. When I stopped having the conversations HE wanted, listened instead of responded to what he said I heard the BS. When I realized "it was all about him" my mindset became better.
Your husband is doing this to you, because it works!!!!!
