HELP! What do you do when your ready to give up?

[Jen_Jam]

OK - I've not posted to you before, and I hope I am in time.

DON'T PANIC!!!!!!!

I don't know your whole sitch, just what is in your signature. But right now, your H doesn't matter, your sitch doesn't matter.

YOU matter.

you are obsessing over H, about what may or may not happen, and you want answers. All completely understandable.

The bad news - you don't get answers in a hurry and sometimes you never get them at all. So! You can't have answers. What can you have instead?

Happiness .... if you can get to the mindset where your M is on a shelf for now, that you are for the time being single, I think this may help. I don't of course mean doing the dating scene, but imagine ... if you had not met your H and were right now not married, what would you be doing in your life? Where would you go? Which friends would you have? What hobbies would you have?

It helped me while my H was in MLC fog and didn't want to come anywhere near me (but wasn't mean or nasty to me) to pretend that he was just some guy I shared a house with and **I** was just fine. I got in touch with old friends, new hobbies, I really enjoyed myself. I made a commitment to the happiness of the most important person in my life - ME. Sounds selfish? Not at all.