Listening to you, your posts are riddled with assumptions! He might have not replied for 3 days for all kinds of reasons and he may have said yes to coming becuase he wanted to, not becuase he is expecting you to drop a "bomb" (what bomb? You are already apart?)
I think its FANTASTIC that he said yes!!!! But why do you want to get out of it, or have an escape plan? I dont personally think you are detached at all (as you said above) becuase it sounds very much like you are a little scared, or afraid of getting hurt.
I reckon its time to be brave and just go for it girl! This is fantastic news, you dont want random coffee date man, you want your H back !? But you need to work on getting into stage 2 and seeing a band is a great idea, as it will be too hard to chat when they are playing and then you will have something to chat about when they stop playing! How much you enjoyed the band...
Really happy for you!
Ali xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
