I think it's awesome that H accepted the invite to go to the Jazz club! Brilliant!! I've been thinking that for whatever reason, H is scared to contact you, so him accepting the invitation, I think, is really positive. it shows that
1. He wants to see you and 2. He's keen enough that he wants to spend the evening together.
It's a really positive step forward! And I think it was a great 180 to invite him to do something fun blodly like that- really good DB. If we were to monitor results, I'd say that this was a successful move! A great example of doing something different and getting positive results!
From the point of view of meeting for a coffee beforehand, I probably wouldn't. You've made contact and you're going to meet, so I'd just leave it at that for now. I think your objective at the moment should be to help H feel comfortable around you (I don't think he does at the moment, for whatever reason).
Originally Posted By: Essie
IF I go, can someone give me ideas of how to get out of the night if it starts to go badly?
Here's a question (more than one, sorry!): Why would the night start to go badly? Don't ASS-U-ME anything, and try to go with no expectations. All you should be looking to do is to have a fun time with H as a friend, not for anything more than that. Can you list a couple of baby steps that might give you an idea of whether H is feeling a little more comfortable around you on Friday?
What are you *expecting* might go wrong? The main thing I would say is to avoid any R talk. If he brings something up, avoid it and move on to a different topic. And I guess if you really need to escape, you could just yawn, say you're pretty tired and you'd better head home.
Hope that helps Ess! I'm so happy and excited about Friday. What will you wear?!
