You're right, this is the time you have to be strong for YOURSELF. You lead your own life independent of W and you need to be able to define what that means. Who is rop? what does rop like? what does rop hate? what annoys rop? if rop were stuck on a desert island, which 5 items would he want to have with him? if rop were to decorate a room, what would it look like?
