Thanks T for your suggestions! I think he is saying yes to the jazz club - but it did take him 3 nights to respond, and he isnt terribly enthused! Oh well!
You are right to remind me about the puppy thing. I guess I'm scared if i will be able to keep up the fun happy thing for several hours to get his full attention.
IF I go, can someone give me ideas of how to get out of the night if it starts to go badly?
I would love to have H over for coffee between now and Friday night - but only if he asks - I think its too much to go for months and months of nothing, and then for me to ask him out for a drink, followed by a phone call, followed by suggesting a time and place for a drink. Adding coffee would be too much! I think he thinks that I have some sort of bomb that I need to drop, and thats why all of a sudden I'm so keen to catch up with him.
The thing is if I go and see H on Friday night and its a disaster, it will help me close the door on reconciliation. And if its good then maybe its a step in the right direction to reconciliation.
