ms ladybug SQUISHED!

[Dom R]

yes, i'm back

i'm going to be "solution oriented", and to the point for you.

How would I approach him? Can I talk to you? I know he'd say, "no. There's nothing more to say."

THIS, is time for the real "as if" work. This is where you are supposed to apply the "act as if" mantra.
I think you need to "act as if", he will be willing to listen. Not talk yourself out of things, by assuming a negative reaction from him.

As far as a specific "intro"... just tell him, "There is something I would like to tell you. Would you please listen for one minute?"

If you can bring yourself to say that quietly to him, i guarantee he will listen.
It's not like he's refusing to talk to you.


Or the "I'd like to apologise" way that TwinDad suggested. he had some good suggestions there.

I just don't think he's ready to talk about this. He's mad.

yes, he is angry. but also very, very sad. you said he was pretty much in tears yesterday.
You need to talk to him before the tears dry up, and all thats left is the anger. it will be a LOONG battle against that, if you let it turn into cold dry anger against you.


As far as the email goes... I think it was a good email. But I think it did not quite go far enough.

He's walking away from you, because he does not believe you will try what the counsellor said. you kindasorta said you would, but you left yourself a loophole, in the way you worded it.
You didnt include explicitly,
"I [....] will try [...] what the marriage counsellor suggests"

If you put it in writing, he's gonna be looking at it with an extra critical eye. You NOT explicitly saying that, will stand out.

Your last sentence half-way hinted at it, but you didnt say "suggestions from the MC", and you only said "open to suggestions", not "I WILL TRY the suggestions".

you didnt commit.
he's looking for a commitment from you. nothing less.