One of them is a picture he took at the boston red sox stadium, which I think unintentionally has an audio file attached to it with a lot of incoherent males screaming with excitement at the baseball game. It is subtitled: "with felix at the stadium". I guess he is watching a baseball game with his friend right now???
The other one says, "Yes! Thanks for your email. I am partying in boston right now but i will be back in nyc on sun. I hope you are enjoying lyrica fest."
the positives: -he texted me back -he texted me twice -he sent me a picture text which is something he used to do when we were together, and is a definite first since the bombs -by sending me a text he is sharing information about what he is doing that happens to be reassuring -he is with his friend named felix, a man
negatives: -He didn't say anything about trying to meet. In the email I offered to meet up with him on sat, sun, or mon and he didn't say anything about that. I even offered to spend my day off with him and he didn't respond until I sent him an email and a text about it. That is not a nice way to treat a "friend"....
And WTF is up with "partying in Boston"?? Since when is going to a baseball game "partying"??
I actually feel really angry right now. How the H*(&* am I supposed to respond to this? Is he trying to make me force the issue???? Or is he just tipsy and distracted by baseball??? Aich, friends.... I am not so happy about this.
At least I don't need to worry about accidentally running into him in NYC tomorrow when I go to a concert with my friends....
on the up side, it was a pretty fast response time... I think he got back to me in less than 3 hours... which is way faster than he's gotten back to me via email, but without the terror of having to talk to him over the phone.
should I text him back something light and friendly like, "cool picture! sounds like fun! did you realize you were sending me an audio file of wild fans at fenway park? have fun with felix!"
Hello my darling! I'm not as good at doling out the advice so hopefully Jeff will pop over soon. But my suggestion would be to just leave it. My thoughts are that he will likely (although I know it's an expectation) contact you when he returns to NYC on Sunday.
As for the texts themselves. I think it's Grrreat that he sent you the picture and audio file. You are right. He is out with a male friend. He is having a good time. He has made a new friend. I recall in earlier posts of yours that you mentioned how it pleased you that he was getting out there and meeting new people. That you had thought he might have been suffering with depression at the time of the bomb. So he is having a good time and sharing it with you (something, as you said, he would have done in the past when you were together).
As for the 2nd text. It's polite, informative and friendly (hope you're enjoying lyrica fest).. all of which are POSITIVES!!!!
I'm sorry he didn't set actual plans with you while you're in NYC (yet) and I do understand your frustration.. but try to hang in there until Sunday to see if he contacts you... although how you do that without expectations I have no clue!
Remember, from his point of view, you've broken up, and he doesn't owe you anything. I know that hurts, but you have to remember that.
If he managed to get tickets to a game at Fenway, there is reason to party! Probably before, during and after the game. Going to Fenway for a baseball fan is kinda like seeing Yo-Yo Ma at Carnegie Hall!
Remember, from his point of view, you've broken up, and he doesn't owe you anything. I know that hurts, but you have to remember that.
So True! Sorry that its not what you were hoping for. Remember you are just at the start of the 'puppy game' where you have to get his full attention first, before he will start chasing you! So keep it light and happy and fun!
Its totally cool to leave it till Sunday for him to contact you with a date to meet up. OR for you to reply with a light hearted text message to say that you are having fun and 'partying' too. Could you drop a 180 into a text message? Whatever feels more comfortable for you and more in control.
If you text him back, how will you feel if he doesn't respond?
I like your idea of a text - except the bit where you ask him if he realised he was sending you an audio file. I'd replace that with sharing something fun that you are doing.
guys you are so great ((((EVERYONE)))) thank you so much for advising me so quickly.
I just spent a bunch of time hanging out with the other festival people and relaxing... and I feel a lot better.
I was reflecting on my emotions & I figured out what I was disappointed about. I wasn't actually expecting to see him tomorrow, but I was expecting me to get back to me about when we would meet up, esp b/c he had expressed interest in meeting. That is the expectation that was disappointed. Just to clarify.
I wish I just knew when I was going to see him so I could start mentally preparing!!!! but clearly that is out of my control at this point.
Now I am going to go to bed!!! ((WHERE))) (((ESSIE))) (JEFFFFFFF)))))))))))))) LOVE T
I was asleep last night. Sorry but if you still need a hug ((((T)))) here is one from me.
You know you are not correct when you said he doesn't tell you anything about meeting on Saturday. He actually told you it could be Sun or Monday. He told you by informing you when he'll be back (Sunday).
Relax sweetheart, let's see how this trip goes. I believe you are getting your "date" with him. Keep your expectations low and show him who you are... Love K
Hey T! (((((hugs))))) Sorry I missed your posts too.
Be patient, no expectations. B will see you- it was his idea! Try to remember that for him this is a casual catch-up with friends, no obligations, just a friendly, lighhearted get-together. You need to try and project the same back to him. Let it all wash over you- water off a duck's back, as CEO says.
You're doing great! Have you got a plan for what to wear/hair/make-up for the meeting (when it happens)?
