he's going to take my child away

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I feel destroyed emotionally, financially, spiritually. I literally don't know how I'm going to survive for the next couple of weeks until I get paid.

I have been in this place. I came to DB 2 relationships after my divorce, which was in 1994. My ex left me financially devastated....and THAT sent me into a depression...and kind of a breakdown, all of which did not serve me well.

You quickly need to change to a 'go with the flow' we'll get through this kind of mentality. ... because that's all that will serve YOU and YOUR DAUGHTER. This environment may get worse before it gets better, but YOU don't have to!

And a beautiful thing is that we're here to help you with some skills and encouragement. My life would have been so different if I had had DB THEN.



What kind of work do you do?


You can get assistance with food and utilities, possibly even rent.

Call everyone you pay regularly and let them know what is going on. Don't be emotional or reactive, just tell them how it is, and don't make promises you can't keep. Tell them you will keep them informed. Ask them for suggestions.



RENT/UTILITIES: Call your COMMUNITY ACTION, Salvation Army, local churches, local Catholic Church's ST. VINCENT DEPAUL.

FOOD: Get public assistance if your income is fairly low. Go and find out what you qualify for, and TAKE IT. I had such a hard time with this. BUT IT'S ONLY TEMPORARY, and it will help you to be able to help your daughter. GO TO LOCAL CHURCHES.

LET PEOPLE KNOW your situation is tough....you will be surprised who will help (you will also be surprised at who doesn't).


ASK for help if there is someone to ask.



I got through this.....and realized there are blessings in being poor. And then you realize there are many folks who are truly the poorest of the poor. And it changes your life....and your child's for the better.




We lived on a college campus, I was going to school at the time. One of the things we would do is go to the local Super Walmart on the free student bus, even late at night (it was 24 hours). We hung out on campus, and there was a lot that was really cheap or free.



YOU WILL MAKE IT THROUGH THIS. STRONGER AND HAPPIER THAN EVER.

Save yourself as much of the emotional drama as you can.