Thanks so much for posting on my thread and being so oooooo supportive!!!
I am very excited with this response that you got!!!! Wow!!!!! That is so bold, and it is great, you got a positive response!!! So did he say yes to the jazz club???? Is that what "yeah that sounds cool" mean??
I think you have more options than you think. Like you could offer to meet him at the club for a drink or two while that band is there and then "be busy" doing something else that you planned b/c you didn't hear from him right away.
I am kind of getting a vibe that he might want to spend more time with you, b/c he is being receptive to you asking to spend time with him, but maybe he is surprised because he thinks you don't want to spend time with him. maybe *he* doesn't want to ask because he is scared!!
Maybe you could show him some more that you are interested in being pursued. Remember what you told me about how you make a puppy chase you??? you have to get all happy and excited and then run away smiling over your shoulder????? how can you do more of that here?
Let's go back to more of what works, less of what doesn't!!! If NC is not necessarily getting results, then perhaps invitations like you have been dropping are more likely to work. So how could you modify this invitation to be more comfortable with it? Or, what other invitations would you be more comfortable with as alternativs??
Don't beat yourself up essie!!! You are just doing a good job of experimenting and monitoring results!
And puh-LEEEEEZ don't be scared to share your DB moves with us, even if they are wild and crazy, I still will support you!!! And I actually found this one to be quite delightful!!!!!!
One more thought... maybe you could have him over for coffee at your place in between now and the jazz club?? Will he be at the neighbors' like he was before???
