Mary, What has happened this week is going to hurt your H's case waaaaaaay more than it hurts you! By sticking to you position, you've taken away the power he thought he had. Stay calm, and let your L work.
Remember, if he's talking, he's lying, he did it again on the 401k money. Trust your lawyer. Your H is going to try to hide the money, your L will be able to stop it. Be calm!
