thank you for the 2x4. I don't know how to "knock it off", but I know I need to. you have to realize how mean and relentless h has become. I think he has serious financial issues (so does my dad and lawyer) and he will stop at nothing to get what he wants. I feel destroyed emotionally, financially, spiritually. I literally don't know how I'm going to survive for the next couple of weeks until I get paid.
I just talked to h (he called) and he said that my lawyer "misunderstood" about the 401 and that he hasn't received the money yet. there is now a motion filed in the courts that if he doesn't give me the money it's basically theft, but my lawyer said, that if he literally doesn't have the money to give (he spent it, etc), the "money" will have to come out in other ways like when/if we sell the house it will come out of that. I can't wait that long!
and the fact that he called social services on me and stole my car, even though I got it back, just shows me what he's capable of.
