Seperation Success Stories?

[minkerman]

So far, my situation is a success story. I spent four long months here in Separated, before suddenly one day my wife asked if she could come home.

She told me so many times that I lost count
"The door is closing"
"I don't want to get your hopes up"
"I'm 95% out the door"
"I don't see you in my future at all"
"You are smothering me"
"I feel like we are done"
"I don't have loving feelings for you anymore"
"I want you to start dating others and getting on with your life"
"I know you don't want to hear this, but I am moving on" (this was the day before we reconciled).

So, one day I finally saw my future, crystal clear. I realized that I had detached totally, so we went out for dinner, where I told her we were breaking up for good. I had met a couple of nice women and I was going to casually date. She was intrigued, but also surprised. The next evening she called and said she wanted to try again. I welcomed her back. She is concerned about me forgiving her, but there is nothing to forgive. the past is gone and we only have today.

It wasn't as simple as I make it sound here, we did talk a lot during our separation, but these are the main points.

It isn't what I'd call a struggle right now, but let's just say that it takes time for the feelings, the trust, the new boundaries, to be determined.

I am hopeful and optimistic...but cautious!

Hope this helps you....