Need Anniversary advice from WAW!

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Yeah - that was me. I had what I thought was a great forrest, but on closer look, it was diseased and buring it to ashes was a good idea in hindsight. Now these new saplings are taking root pushing up through the ashes, and I think this new forrest is going to be much lusher and richer than before.

Ya know, I hear what you are saying about the energy towards divorce. It seems my lady at times is just hell bent on it.

But I try to remind myself about the energy she put into this marriage over the years, and her compounding disappointments that things were not improving. I was blind to these efforts, I only 'woke up' when I realized the crap has hit the fan. So from my perspective, it seemed like a lot of energy was going into the divorce. But it doesnt compare to the energy she has put into our relationship. She was trying to do all the heavy lifting for so long.

Now, I believe she still has some work to do if this is going to work out for us. Mainly to forgive and bury the past and to try to stop expecting the worst out of me. But for now, I can understand if she is exhausted, so I will do the heavy lifting in hopes she see's that and in turn, gets motivated again.

Thank you for the sentiment - I have the same wish for everyone who is in this situation. I take vicarious joys and sorrows in every thread I read.

But I am convinced, that even if our spouses decide that its all a day late $1 short, we LBS will still be better people for our efforts.