in limbo and an emotional mess...

[MAZ]

Isn't it amazing we all have such a similar situation as far as them being upset or demanding when it comes to us talking to their OW / OM's exs...that is exactly it,, we are not the ones tearing apart 2 families,, our H's and the OW are, so it gets twisted and they try to find a fault with us to ease their "guilt" or blame everyone but themselves. we are supposed to sit and sulk (which we do) and they are out sowing their oats and playing their game, I ask myself sometimes why? and only come up with if I have no one to talk to who is tied to the situation then we can't find things out we normally wouldn't have, and they probably don't want us to "hook up" with someone else (yeh thats why we're fighting for our marriages) OW was feeding H, that her ex was gonna try to get with me as "payback",, well I don't play that game and H knows it,,, just another way the OW will make H fight with her ex to make him look like the bad guy in H's eyes. Thus she gets more sympathy from H - Sugar as far as their sense of duty and obligation to the OW, it makes me sick, if they were as obligated to our marriages then we wouldnt have these issues now would we,,, but that don't realize that..at least your H put some kind of a time frame in there Sugar, mine just says he's "planning" on coming home,, well when,, that will be my next question...and in the mean time she lives with you, sleeps with you (and he denies that but I know otherwise), and is playing "house" all for free... but the 20 years we've had kind of get swept under the rug because she is around. No reason for anyone to apologize about the thread,,, we all have the same thing going on, and thats what we're all here for,, you all are great... thank you