Why is all of this so hard? I found OW's shirt laying on my bed this afternoon. And I want to say that she is one size bigger than me (and I am a plus sized girl). Anyhow....when I found that I lost it and called H and left a not as nice as I could have been message about how her shirt better be out of the house when I get back.
When I returned home, I called H again (I know...I know...) to ask him if he was sleeping at the house tonight. He wanted to know what was going on with the D. He wanted to know if I had filed the papers and things. And told him matter of factly that since he has not stopped having an affair, I really had no choice but to go ahead and file. He just went "mmmmm." He then went into a sob story about how he is running out of money and he really needs shoes and a shirt for school because he is starting clinicals. I again told him very matter of factly, "I would love to help you out with that, but because you continue to have an affair I will not help you. If you were single and having a difficult time, it would be another story." He just says, "I understand." I know I sort of went off on him a little bit but you know what...I dont' care. It wasn't awful and the conversation ended nicely.
I just felt like he goes out of his way to hurt me more than I am already hurting.
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08