My husband want to come home - help!

[NikB]

I think Saffie's advice is really good.

I speak as someone who "agreed" to my H coming home but with no "conditions," no "this is what I want" in mind. I just wanted him home.

It worked for a few months.. I got bombed a second time 6 months later. We almost separated again last Oct. Now we're back on more solid ground but it's been tough. And I think the #1 thing we're lacking is that open, honest, 2-way communication.

Until you KNOW you can be clear with each other (and no eggshells), I would agree that you should be cautious.

Definitely don't be afraid to succeed - but don't be afraid to take it slow, either. SallyM posts in "Surviving" and her H has recently come back. You might look at what's worked for her so far.

One thing that stuck out to me:

He wants to escape his job where she works,

If this is important to you as well, I'd say he should do this BEFORE moving back home. Make sure he's well on the road to getting over her, and not just filling that void by coming back to you. Make sense?

I really just want my husband to take me in his arms, look me in the eye and say: "I'm sorry. I love you. And I want to come home because I want you."

I soooo want that for you, too!!