WAW- Need advise, what to do, I want her back.

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Also - I suggest you get your parents to permanently tone things down.

You may be thier son, but no longer thier 'child'.

I can understand how this could be a turn off for your wife, especially if it was rare you came to her defense.

I am sure you have tried to put yourself in her shoes imagining how you might feel if her parents were critical of you over the years.

So tell your folks you love them and value thier opinions on matters. But also tell them that thier actions towards your wife over the years did you no favors at all. Did thier granddaughter no favors either.