I am sorry to hear that. I really hoped she would have accepted.

Like you ask: what do you do? You can either let it get you down and feeling out, or you can decide to 'blow it off' for your own peace of mind and continue DBing the next time you see her.

(typically I allow some time for myself to mope a little..ya know, get it out of my system so I dont wind up bottling it up. But then I get back up and begin moving forward)

Who knows, maybe if she accepted..anything..for the anniversary she felt she might be sending you 'the wrong message'

God knows my wife tends to flip/flop with her sweetness in fear its going to 'lead me on'

But, as cold as she may seem when she does it, I know its no fun for her either.

We know these women as intimately as possible and know what kind of hearts they have.


Me: 37
Wife: 40
Son: 7yo
Son: 18 mo
Bomb: 12/31/07
Status: Reconciled 1/2009 but backsliding terribly right now