Good advice from Jack. And Mishka, it sounds like you are becoming very aware of who you need to be and not only for your H's sake. Otherwise changes are not permanent.
I can relate because I honestly want the changes to be permanent in myself and have actually been concerned that I would've reverted back to my old habits if she came back too early.
Focus on what is right.
Me:56, W:51 D:26,S:24,S:22 Married:18 Bomb 9/27/06 Separated 11/27/06 Divorced 10/6/08 Leaving it up to God