in limbo and an emotional mess...

[Sugar and Spice]

It seems like my H in some twisted way realizes the mess he's made of our marriage and if he can just walk away from ours and start a new/clean relationship with someone else that needs to be rescused, life will be grand!

Sue and Mzul isn't it funny that they think this new R will be so great when its based on lies and deception? How can you have a new/clean R when you have to hurt and deceive SO many people to get it? My H says he wants to do the "right thing" by her and as a human being I can understand this, but as his wife...I'm having a really hard time with this sense of duty and obligation, only where she is concerned.

My H is asking for approx. 6 more months to "get OW through this." The details of that are the gray area. I'm not sure what that means as H does not possess a uterus (to my knowledge.) He is living with his mother and OW lives with her D12 and her parents and 2 sisters and their kids and their kids kids....how cozy. We agreed that he could have until July 2 to work on his issues (gambling and OW) and that was fine until now. Now its pretty much I want more time and I feel like I would be a fool to put my stamp of approval on my H continuing to cake-eat. Sorry for the hi-jack. Just wanted answer your question. How am I dealing with her being pregnant? I really don't know. I know that OW is a symptom of a bigger issue and this just complicates it, but the saddest part is that neither one of them REALLY want this baby. I truly believe that she deliberately got pregnant either to keep him or because of the money...shes addicted to gambling too. I'm just tired of thinking about this and its probably time to just let him go and fix the mess hes made of our lives. I really want him to get better so he can be a better dad to my kids and because we have been together for 20 years and I'll always care about him, hes just so confused...it really is sad. ((((mzul)))) hang in there.