I don't now if I should be here or MLC?????
Anyhow.....

Things have been relatively quiet.

Although I'm not posting I'm reading every day.

I've been very busy with.... well.... life, and yard work

I have something that is bothering me and I know I can count on some good advice.

I'm in the matrimonial home and the finances still are not finalized.

My lawyer mailed a letter to his lawyer in May 27 that in essence said lets get a move on this.

For the last 2 weeks my ex ( I hate putting that!) has been coming by and doing things around the yard while I'm not there but calling me to let me know that he is at the house getting something or did something.

His reasoning is that he knows that there is alot to take care of and that he is just helping me out.

His words were " you think I hate you but you're wrong, I hope we can just be friends and I would rather you ask me to do things for you than anyone else"

He then asked ifwe could be friends and after a short pause I said I didn't think so.

I did call him back and said that I appreciate all that he does for me and yes we could be friends as long as his intentions were good I had no problem with him coming over to help.

He said he would help if I needed it because he knows all that needs to be done on the outside.

I'm not stupid and I know that he still has a vested interest in the house but he still does not have to do what he is doing.

Right now my emotions are raw because last year at this time (June 8,) is when he slept with the OW.

I'm thinking 1) he has talked to the lawyer and I'm feeling a deal coming down the line or 2) he is sincere or 3) the guilt and or lonliness has gotten to him.

This is really tough right now as I am really tring to 180, and have been doing good until now.

It feels as though the bandaid keeps getting ripped of and will never heal.

I could really use some words of wisdom as I could fall right down that slippery slope easily right now.

Give me 2 x 4's or whatever you got. I realy want to get through/over this .


"Sometimes in the winds of change, we find our true direction"

Being the calmness in the storm......