Question for ya. How do you know when your W is becoming more civil and engaging you because she is starting to come back to the R, or because she has emotionally detatched from it and doesn't care. I feel my W is the later. She is fine with touching, kissing and even occasional sex (not ML), but because they don't mean anything to her anymore. So she says. Any words of wisdom or at least some of wit.
That's probably the $64,0000 question. I guess it's consistent actions over time, not words. Words mean nothing. I haven't read your sitch so I don't feel comfortable advising anything, but in a nut shell, do you ever really know what a WAS is thinking? Until they are on their knees crying and begging for forgiveness or make other concrete statements that are backed up by actions, I don't think you can ever know for sure.
And I'd kill for some touching/kissing/sex. Haven't really had any of that since mid-August last year.
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.
