in limbo and an emotional mess...

[SueS]

mzul-

Yeah, it's a bummer that I've been on here a few different times, but I keep coming back because of the amazing people this board brings to it.

I understand how you feel about your H defending OW or his getting angry at her XH calling you. Mine is the same way. OW's H in my case calls me from time to time. I'd never told H about it, but apparently OW tells him because a few times I've gotten the.......I know you've talked! comment. SO WHAT! We talked....we didn't have SEX! Last week my H & I were talking and I told him how upset I was to find out through OW's H that my H was moving out soon. Not upset about the moving because I know it's coming. Upset about not finding out through my H. My H threw a fit. He called OW's H every name in the book. He told me that I need to tell him never to call me again and that he wouldn't wish OW's H on his worst enemy. It just AMAZED me. OW's H is just a guy (who admits his mistakes) who is fighting to keep his family together. My H is the one sleeping with his wife and pulling two families apart, yet OW's H is the bad guy? Makes NO sense. My H has defended OW too. My H feels like he's rescuing OW from a man/marriage that's just a mess and that she needs to get out of. It seems like my H in some twisted way realizes the mess he's made of our marriage and if he can just walk away from ours and start a new/clean relationship with someone else that needs to be rescused, life will be grand! He's rescuing her from exactly what he's done to me all these years. Life hasn't always been bad for me. We've had a lot of very good times....and I suspect that OW & her H have had the same. She's just very messed up now.

I'm sorry for stealing your thread to give a very long explanation of why I understand what you're feeling and to say....I get it!

Take care of you and those kids. Put you first for a change, okay.

Hugs - Sue