How can I show him? He doesn't trust me and won't ever believe that any change I make is real.
Consistency in whatever changes you choose and time. It may take him a lot of time....trust takes a long time to rebuild. I have been told the same thing by my W. She doesn't believe it is the real me, yet I am closer to the man I was when we got married than I have been in a long time....it has been a long time.
As far as how to act in front of him. There is no shame in letting him know that this is bothering you. My W will often say stuff like I didn't sleep good at all last night or something along those lines. She won't come out and admit she is bothered (or rarely does so) but she will say stuff like that. I don't ask why, I just ask how bad was her night of sleep. You could try something like this, something subtle....or course wearing the sun glasses might tell the story all by itself.
Best wishes and hope things go better for you this weekend.
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
