I've started to develop feelings for another man. I think these feelings have developed into LOVE. I'm not kidding. And, I think he feels the same. He lives on my street and visits with me every evening before my husband gets home from work. This morning I was having my coffee on the porch and he joined me. He's not much to look at, but he's super sweet. He's in pretty rough shape - a diabetic, skin and bones and up there in years. Bless his heart. I think he's lonely and wants some lovin' during his senior years. Who could blame him?
I really need to stop my feelings from growing. I cannot get too attached to this old guy. What am I to do????
Do not get attached to someone out of pity for him. Goodness Sakes Girl !!!
Back up & think about what you TRULY want IF your M doesn't work out. Write down all the qualities that are important to you in a person. Realize that IF your M doesn't work, you'll need healing time. You'll need to be alone & recover & discover who you are now. The worst thing you could do is jump into a R before this one even ends. That's job advice, get one while you still have one, not Relationship advice, girlie.
Be busy when the neighbor stops by. You're standing in QUICK SAND !!
xoxo I want all the best for you, this isn't it.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
Close. I went to high school in Bakersfield, but moved up north about a hundred miles for college and stayed. I don't think either place is too terrible. BUT, I'd take Tahoe any day. So beautiful...
Oh, did I forget to mention, the man I've fallen far happens to be a kitty cat? Oopsie! What kind of girl do you think I am????
You gave me such a heart attack, I didn't even finish reading the thread before I replied. Duh ! Sheesh, do I feel silly now xoxo
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
Hey gForce! Don't feel too jealous. A lot of people consider the city where I live to be the armpit of California. HOWEVER, it's only an hour's drive from Yosemite, so neener-neener. =)
I'll definitely take you up on the trip to Acadia National Park. All is right with the world when I'm in nature.
I'll be wishing you the best of luck with your recent turn of events, gman.
Like Mike said, "don't f it up!" ;-)
Man, you guys have put so much pressure on me. I better do it right (or if I'm doing something wrong, I'm sure someone will let me know.
Maybe Fresno? If you are only an hour from Yosemite, that ain't no armpit. Maybe the dirt belly button lint of Cali, but not the armpit.
Me45 W35 M6 T8 D16 SD11 D0 Dec 07: Bomb July 08: Busted! Thread
This morning I realized that I may have detached a little too successfully. I thought, "I love him, but I'm not IN love with him." Then I saw him at the office and melted a little.
I'm still not crazy about sleeping in my bed alone. BUT, I used to stick to "my" side; now I sleep in the middle.
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence
I am still on my side by the alarm clock. Donny the Cat has taken over the other side. Marie the Cat comes in and whines for food right before my alarm goes off.
I slept in the middle of the kingsized bed initially. Figured I'd take my old side back (had given it up 4 years ago because he really wanted it) but something was funky with the mattress, so I'm back to my current side of the bed, with books on the other.
Sometimes I scooch to the middle, curl up with a soft full pillow and sleep very well.
When I get out of bed, even if it's 3 AM, I make the bed, shaking my head in wonder as I do.
xoxo