I know I'll see him this afternoon at my daughters swimming lessons. My eyes are swollen from crying all night, I'll keep my sunglasses on. But how do I act? His gotten mad at me for acting "as if" like I'm not bothered by this.
so.... dont act that way?
I think that he needs to see just how deeply you are affected by this. Because up until now, he does not believe that your marriage matters enough to you, for you to do anything about it.
He needs to see that it matters to you.
Yes, this is not the usual DB advice... but then, there is no "one, true set of DB rules to follow" that works for everyone. DB is not a magical "one size fits all" cheatsheet. You have to adjust it to the people involved. and the book itself, actually says that.
Last edited by Dom R; 06/06/0804:41 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
