Ya know, we grow up in a society that preaches how unique and special we each are. Extreme individualism.

And while I can agree that we are all each unique and special entities on planet Earth..I think it also allows us to loose touch with how similar we can all be too. So it is comforting to come to sites like this and see how our problems in life arent that unique afterall, and that many people have similar experiences & that we are not alone.

I can be honest that my attitude is not always very good. And in fact about 6 months ago (bomb dropped) it was pretty bad. And some days I feel more/less hopeful than others.

Between coming to this site and coming to the realization that people really arent all that different, and our problems not unique and insurmountable...coupled with an pure desire to make improvements for myself...not for her, but for my own outlook on life and desire to be the best father I can be..I really do feel 'reborn' with inspiration to continue down this path...with or without her.

I now realize my regeneration would have been impossible if my forrest was not burned down.

In hindsight, I can see how this experience NEEDED to happen. And I can appreciate my wife for having the strength to kickstart it.

So now I realize how beneficial this rollercoaster is, I am ready to enjoy the ride - put my arms in the air and feel the rush


Me: 37
Wife: 40
Son: 7yo
Son: 18 mo
Bomb: 12/31/07
Status: Reconciled 1/2009 but backsliding terribly right now