If I did that right it's a link to Michele's LRT and detaching as interpreted by "JJ". I think it gives a good description of some of the DB "state of mind" you are going for.
Sweetie, Michelle also says that if you are comfortable ML with your H that the connection can be important in your efforts to be the person your H can't live without. I honestly was only looking at the way it was making you feel after such a recent blow to your emotional reconnection efforts.
We care about YOU. I support whatever your choices are best for you. Period. We try to come up with suggestions/solutions sometimes, but none of us can tell you what to do. I can tell you what worked for me, in SOME circumstances, but it has nothing to do with what you should do or what I'd do in your shoes. I don't believe anyone who says "This is what I'd do." They may be POSITIVE they'd act one way, but until they are in your shoes (which they can't be) they can't know.
The pain you are in is just heart-wrenching to read.... however.... we aren't necessarily "supposed" to live a painless life. Learning and growing from the pain is a good goal though, and I'm not sure that means just building a wall to teach yourself how to hide from the pain.
What are your revised relationship goals now that it's changed again?
I know of some of the work you've done. You are no newbie flailing in the wind. Sooo, just sending you some strength this morning and a thank you for writing about your walk. It sounds like it was magical.
