So how YOU doin'

[MissH]

Your brothers are awesome! They are truly a blessing, like guardian angels.

BTW, how many children do your parent's have? I know it's a big number, I just forgot.

[*KS*Chick*]

Your brothers sound awesome Lissie! Great men - I hope they teach M & M about how to be & look for a good man.

Are any of them single

[Reincarnated]

Lissie--Glad to hear that your brothers were able to come and "cancel out" the insensitivity of x.....

Hug your babies today

[ACJ]

Your brothers are the complete opposite of my one brother. You are a very lucky lady

[cat03]

awwwwww Lissi!!!!! how blessed you are

muah!

[Lissie]

OMG I KNOW!

I have been crying like an unpaid hooker this morning


I am feel so grateful.



We are like that with each other. Family is all we got sometimes.

[BigHands]

crying like an unpaid hooker

I peed. Now I gotta shower before comp'ny comes.

[Lissie]

Sooooo what to do, what to do!

The X has not contacted the peeps that garnish the wages as of yet.

His wages were getting garnished. Now he switched jobs.

So he has not contacted the garnished peeps. I think he has not contacted the garnished peeps, b/c he is making more money and he does not want me to find out.

So he wants to write me a check himself .

But for me, to get the child support and alimoney up, I have to take him back to court, and he has to supply, his new wages.

UGH

taking him back to court, will cost me heavy. He punishes me by taking it out on the kids.

and UGH

I am soo tired of it.

I hate this crap.

To court or not to court that is the question!

[bright_new_day]

But for me, to get the child support and alimoney up, I have to take him back to court, and he has to supply, his new wages.

UGH

taking him back to court, will cost me heavy. He punishes me by taking it out on the kids.

and UGH

I am soo tired of it.

I hate this crap.

To court or not to court that is the question!

I know how you feel Lis. For a couiple of months the X has been good...had the check cut directly from the bank and it arrived on time. This month it is back ot the same old thing....waiting for the check. Finally e-mailing him then getting it on the 6th. It would be so much easier to go through the children's services, but that would probably piss him off....and then I would get more [censored] talked about me to the kids. (Which I know he does becaue of things that have been said by them.)

And it sucks that we have to pay attorney's fees to get what is fair. I know my sitch is going to get interesting because my second child just turned 18 and she graduates from HS in a week. So he won't have to pay support for ehr anymore (which is so unjust becaue my bills aren't going to change, I will still be supporting her while she goes to college.) If he had any decendy he would at least continue the support until she leaves for college, but I have long since stopped expecting decency from him. I am pretty sure he will deduct 1/3 of the child support starting next month.....but that's not how it works. It actually has to be refigured, and it won't be 1/3. (And I wonder how it will all work since he is remarried and living in a two income household and only responsible for part of the living expenses???) So it is going to get interesting and I am sure I will have to contact my attorney.
God this gets old.

[Bworl]

Just make sure that if you start accepting checks directly now, that you don't give up the right to petition for a change later.

If you're happy with what you're receiving now, and it doesn't keep you from asking for a change in the future, do what you are comfortable with.

Personally, if he's seen a significant increase in his income, I would expect his children to benefit from that as well.

Lord knows, child support doesn't come close to accounting for all the expenses involved in caring for our kids, at least that's my experience.


Blessings,

Bill