Where am I at in this thing?

[EnergyAZ]

I see very good things in your post.

1st that jumps to me is that she was willing to try your counselor even though she already liked the one you guys were seeing.

What that says to me, is that she seems to want the counseling and forward progression to continue regardless of who is the actual couselor or not. That is huge IMO

2nd is that you appear to be doing the right things too...allowing that space even though its so difficult for you. Its a sacrifice that must be made and you seem to realize that. And instead of reacting like a victim, you continue to offer the olive branch.

I suggest you maintain what you are doing, I feel you are on the right track. Keep going, keep improving and she will continue to notice. She already has noticed, and likely is hoping it will continue.

Like my girl, she needs to be 100% satisfied things wont revert back to the old ways. And at times they will, like you mentioned dinner going to hell. But sounds like you quickly rebounded and she appeared to appreciate it and forgive it.

I can relate, its so hard not to discuss the R when its such a massive thing in our minds. But I applaud you for continuing to find other positive things to talk about. Its very comforting to have friendly dialog with her isnt it?

So keep it up dude!