(((((Chris))))) First off, the job opportunity sounds great. I am glad you hit it off. Hopefully it will work out and it will turn into something good for you.
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H said. "well, we can talk about that. As long as I see progress is being made, I can probably put off filing".
This is a good thing! Babysteps right?? Even if he is still deadset on it, more time will only help. I think if you aren't pressuring him and actually helping him (ie looking for a job) then maybe he back down on the urgency of filing a bit.
I say don't bring it up. Don't say anything about filing, not filing, putting it off, etc. It just keeps it on his mind. He knows how you feel.
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Being excited for the job, and sad too because I know he'll be leaving soon if I get it.
Don't tell him you will be sad. He knows that. It only makes him feel guilty. I get the impression that he already feels a bit of guilt, no need to rub it in his face, it doesn't work. I know you just want him to know how you feel about it, but trust me he knows.
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I'm so conflicted on separating. Part of me thinks it could be good.
I was too, but I think in the end for me and my H it was a good thing and ultimately saved our marriage. He saw that the grass wasn't greener. He will miss being at home and not seeing his daughters every night. That will be a big change for him.
Hang in there and try not to worry about the separation too much until it happens. Cross that bridge when you get there.
