Oh no! Please help!!

[EnergyAZ]

Energy, Good plan! Just keep in mind sometimes the spouse is actually fearful of your changes. Afterall, she has made the right decision. Just don't be surprised if she is looking for any little hint of a slip up to validate her "decision". Don't let this keep you from continuing from making this changes just don't be discouraged by something small gatting blown out of proporttion to suit her "needs". I have had this happen to me.

Yeah, at times I get the impression she feels my 'changes' are all an act. Therefore she kinda busts out the magnifying glass to investigate and then be a tad nitpicky. But I am only human and I am slowly growing. But it is progressive and it is improving and every day it gets easier and easier. Like I said 'upward spiral' its now no longer in my 'control' but snowballing with its own momentum

Yes...she did make the right decision to leave. In hindsight, I would want to leave that guy too.

And I can completely understand her skepticism, and in fact I welcome it. She may turn over every stone looking for a sign that everything is a ruse. I have all the time & patience in the world to let her do that.

Thanks for the encouragement & reminder; just the other day she doubted me and reitterated her desire to leave as soon as feasably possible and I felt down and hopeless about things. So yeah, I expect the roller coaster to continue

But instead of gripping with white knuckles, I think I am gonna raise my arms in the air! Why not, its not gonna kill me!