I remembered something H said that I found interesting:
He said that the "bomb" (ILYBNILWY) was not planned at all. He had never intended to leave that day. He said it was a knee-jerk reaction to a bad family situation that was going on at the time. I needed his support, he didn't give it, and I pushed his buttons. His reaction was to run away to the "OW" who offered a sympathetic ear and an easy escape route.
She filed for divorce from her H the next day and moved in with my H (she didn't want to give him time to come to his senses,lol!) He then found (I think to his horror) he couldn't get the lid back on Pandora's box.
He said it like was a vortex that kept sucking him back in. Problems kept compounding and he felt overwhelmed by the damage he was creating. He gave up, started drinking, and his life slid into the gutter.
Anyway, I found this to be an interesting glimpse into the MLC mind.
