My husband want to come home - help!

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What I've been waiting for the past 14 months of our separation has happened and all my DBing work is paying off. My husband has discovered that the grass isn't so green outside our marriage and he wants to move back in. (this stuff really does work - thanks Michelle!!) So, why have I broken out in hives for the first time in my life and I feel scared to death? Why don't I go and embrace him and say - of course, move right back in? A part of me wants to. He says he feels like I'm waiting for something to happen, like I have some check list he doesn't know how to fulfill and he's getting mixed messages. He wants to escape his job where she works, never drive the same road there again and move forward. So why can't I? I really just want my husband to take me in his arms, look me in the eye and say: "I'm sorry. I love you. And I want to come home because I want you."
I told him that I want to know he's coming home for me - but I think he feels pressured even though I'm not looking for miraculous differences - only a little love and affection.. both of which were sorely lacking in our marriage. I'm afraid to give these things to him because I've felt so badly rejected for so long. I don't want us to ever go back and a part of me believes that his own personal growth won't allow that to happen. Another part of me is dreadfully afraid that the man I'm taking back will be the exact same man who left. I can use some advice!