in limbo and an emotional mess...

[Sugar and Spice]

mzul-

Yes, you do need a good night sleep. 30 lbs! That's about where I was the first time around.

I'm at 45 and holding right now. You really should see a doctor about the not sleeping though, its hard enough to deal with life right now, being exhausted on top of it will only make it worse.

Sounds like your H is trying. I'll be looking to see if he shows up tonight. I am proud of you for telling him that he can't keep playing these games with you. Me, I didn't have enough strength to do that. I'm so much stronger now though and I do shoot my "truth darts" when I can. I had a fear of losing him that paralyzed me so much that I didn't say much at all. I confronted him, but didn't set boundaries or push it too much.

If you are setting boundaries, stick to them. I am learning the hard way (trust me!) that unless you are going to stick to it, don't say it. I am going to have to let my H go because he is just asking way too much of me at this point.

This OW.... I just don't know what to say about her. She has so much gall, so much nerve. She's amazingly bold. For her to be angry that YOUR husband is going to be having dinner with HIS family. She's got some issues. You are SO much better than her.

OW in your sitch sounds a lot like mine and many others for that matter. OW or more affectionately known as The Troll in my case actually gets mad for me even calling him if she is around. She got pissy at Easter because he spent time with me and our kids and on Mother's Day too. She HATES my guts, which I find so odd since she is the one screwing MY H! I'm not sure how these people look themselves in the mirror but I'm sure its not a pretty sight. Don't worry about her, it sounds like her crazy a$$ will do the work for you. He will get tired of her nonsense, but not until you remove yourself from the situation. I firmly believe if I had just walked away from my H at any point during this whole mess that he would have seen the truth and unfortunately that is what is going to happen here very soon. I hope and pray for your sake that she doesn't get pregnant...

As far as your sons are concerned, get them into some C as soon as you can. They will try and be strong for you, but take it from someone who knows, the ones that pay the tab on this thing will be those boys. I know it has helped my kids TREMENDOUSLY to have their C, as they can tell her anything and it also helps me get a little insight into how they are feeling and how to best handle things during the week. I don't know how much they know, but I'm betting its more than you think. Not trying to be ugly, but kids hear EVERYTHING and they know when something is up.
Your in my prayers. ((((mzul))))