Have a question about my sitch

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Well you have two good choices. You can see her and just bite your tongue about the stuff she's taking (and the R) if you feel up to it, then do this. Or, if you don't feel up to this then you can tell her that something came up for that day and night and she can feel free to come by for her stuff and hopefully you can see each other sometime soon.

True. I really do want to see her, and be happy around her. I think only positive things will come of that. So far I have been 98% perfect in following the "rules" so I'd like to continue.

I know. But you know I think you will find this out once all her stuff is out and then see what her contacts and initiation are like.

I already know that, but for some reason, I pretend I don't. I'm glad I have a reminder here I should add this to my short list of goals: In situations where my patience is tried, especially pertaining to the R, I must do the exact opposite of haste (my previous M.O)

I know this may sound silly, but I think this would be a good time to get a puppy or a kitten. I think it could really cheer you up or comfort you for you to have a little guy to care for and have affection.

It doesn't sound silly at all. We both wanted a dog, but we are absent from home long enough due to work and busy lives that I think it would be unfair to an animal like a dog. She has ferrets, so she is lucky. I do NOT want ferrets again, though. Too messy!